An update of events this past year

Since the start of this blog, my husband has had several firsts.
He has gone out ,several times, dressed and in makeup, and had his first 
trip to a salon.  At a recent Halloween party, I went in first to get an idea 
of the reactions and he came in a few minutes later. We were amazed at the overall reaction-it was very positive and he was the life of the party! I learned a very important thing-his personality would have come through no matter what he was wearing.

He loves women and makes sure they know it. For them, there was no question about his sexuality, but an admiration of his confidence in his masculinity in the fact that he could go out dressed as a woman. Several even complimented him on his legs and asked who did his nails.

It was priceless seeing him give a crash course on how to apply acrylic nails!

I have a new facebook page-please stop by and visit me.

Well, it's almost midnight-kick up your heels and have a wonderful and Happy New Year!

Please feel free to contact me with stories you would like to share or to just say hello.

Thoughts on Crossdressing by Terri

Why do I cross dress? That is a complicated and emotionally charged question. I can't say for sure what "caused" me to begin cross dressing, other than to say I have always been fascinated with lingerie and panties in particular. I have never had gay or bisexual sex and I do not find men in the least bit sexually attractive. I have never gone out in public fully dressed, probably because of a combination of fear and shame. I have a high profile job at which I am very successful and I am generally regarded by those I work with as a "man's man". I do not believe that anyone who knows me would guess that I secretly dress in panties, stockings, high heels, and lingerie and I think it would profoundly change their opinion of me if they were to find out. That may in and of itself be part of the allure of being a secret cross dresser, the adrenaline rush of going out wearing panties under my man clothes and risking getting "caught". I do go through long periods where I don't dress, so the dressing is not all consuming, but I feel so sexy and decadent while dressed that it is a bit addicting and I really do enjoy it. 

I hope this enlightens you a bit on why I do this, and will gladly answer any question that may be generated by my "confession".

terri

I married a crossdresser

 It all started about 14 years ago. I was helping my fiancee move out of his place and into the house we would share as husband and wife. Packing some boxes, I came across a bra. A bra? What and whose is this? Oh, simple and innocent, it was an old girlfriend's. Oh, okay-perfectly understandable, right?

 Fast forward about 2 years. We are happily married and working together in the yard. I had seen a really weird show on TV about a guy who cross dressed. I remember thinking "what a freak". My husband and I are outside working and talking about lots of different things so I start telling him about this show. He says, "so, what- what if I did that"? He reminded me of that bra I had found. HUH? Excuse me!? Well, I really have no specific memory of what happened after that except for this intense fear that the man I married and loved was some freak, or was gay. So, I ask him and he assured me that he is straight and that he loves me. I asked him if he was sure."Yes" Okay, you are straight, but you cross dress. That makes no sense! Straight guys don't do that stuff! Do they? I truly thought my marriage was over.

 My husband let me take it all in and let me deal with things at my own pace. He never forced anything on me. In fact, he went out of his way to make me feel comfortable with his dressing. No ultimatums were given by either of us.
It took awhile, okay, a long time, for me to feel even the least bit comfortable with him in bra, panties and a pair of stockings while were making love. Then one day, I put his girl clothes out for him-without even realizing I did it. It showed him I was comfortable with his dressing.

 The sex was,and still is, fantastic. His dressing seemed to make him a more gentle and responsive lover. He is a totally different man than when we first got married. He is more free and much more relaxed. I am too. He no longer has a fear of the marriage being destroyed if I found out and I have long since realized that he is most definately, NOT gay! I look forward to sex and we have sex several times per week. Our sessions have become longer and more intense, We are looking forward to our twelfth anniversary. 
 
Every girl dreams of growing up and finding her prince charming. Well, I found mine. So what if he happens to wear lingerie and pumps?

"The world would be a much better place if more men wore lingerie"

Crossdresser feelings

The range of feelings expressed by Crossdressers covers a wide range.
 From positive feelings ,happiness, warmth, sexiness and attractiveness, a feeling of general well being, vulnerability sometimes mixed with negative feelings,guilt, humiliation, shame, hurt, a feeling of dirtiness and worthlessness. Other feelings may include "girliness" and a sense of "rightness".
While many men enjoy the positive feelings of dressing, there are men that enjoy the negative feelings or a mixture of both. There are many that use
either positive or negative feelings as a release for feelings they do not allow themselves in daily life. Some use negative feelings to cope with their desire to dress. They seek relationships with dominants that "force" them into crossdressing. A possible way of releasing themselves from responsibility for their own feelings. 
Many crossdressers reach a point where they will quickly undress and some will experience negative after feelings.


The causes of these feelings are generally unknown. I have never uncovered a suitable answer. Women get feelings wearing clothes as well but not to the extent that men do when they crossdress. This may be due to society's acceptance of women wearing men's clothes.


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Heterosexual Crossdresser Overview

A heterosexual crossdresser is a man who is attracted to women and also enjoys dressing 
up in women's clothing to varying degrees for various purposes. The type of clothing can 
range from a single item (i.e. stockings or panties) to full outfits with hair, makeup and 
accessories. The time spent crossed dressed may be as little as one sexual encounter to
evenings out. In some cases, it can last for several days. 

Why?

There are many theories but I doubt that there is any one true answer. One answer could not
possibly cover all cases. The reasons for crossdressing are as varied and unique as the men 
who participate. Generally, men get a sense of well being and security, sometimes submissivness,
when dressing. Some love the feel of the fabrics involved. Some start out of curiosity and 
like the feelings it gives them. The powerful social taboos are also a reason.


Are crossdressers Gay?

 Not neccessarily.  The number of heterosexual men who engage in it far outnumber those
who are gay or bi sexual. 

Do crossdressers want to become women?

Some do  eventually, have gender reassignment surgery.  Some feel possessed of a "second self"
or female spirit as in a double life. Crossdressing liberates that other identity.
For the majority, it is simply a sexual excitement that they derive from it. 


Can they be "healed"?

I do not believe this is possible as they suffer from no identifiable mental illness.
They will promise to never do it again and go right back to it.


A vast majority of crossdressers feel ashamed and humiliated by it. They think there is 
something wrong with themselves. They believe that their desire to crossdress, makes them
less of a man. They deal with this conflict on a daily basis. They assign too much importance
to the incorrect assumptions of society.  They do not realize that they can accept their desire to

crossdress and still be a man.

Heterosexual Crossdressers are caught between the heterosexual and homosexual worlds and truly 
accepted by neither.  The misconceptions and biases of both communities drive them into a secret 
suffering.  They can someday deal with it in their acceptance of themselves and not concern
themselves with what either community thinks.  



I can never hope to make crossdressing accepted to the general public.

What I hope to do, is help those who crossdress, to accept themselves and feel

more secure with their desire to dress. 
Crossdressing is a facet  of a man's character. It does not  define it.